Wow! Can you believe we are almost in May?
What a year it has been so far.
Here in Scotland, lockdown rules have finally been relaxed and so at long last, we are permitted to travel beyond the 5-mile radius that has been imposed since Christmas time. Finally – a small taste of freedom.
How are things where you are? Any sign of lockdown relaxing? I really hope so, and I send my best wishes to you wherever you are.
These last 12 months have been tough. Really tough. And as we start to emerge into a ‘new normal, I think it’s more important than ever before, to remind ourselves of the incredible power that lies in Mastering our Mindset.
In taking control of our thoughts. In understanding – it is your thoughts that create your feelings, and those feelings which will dictate your actions in any given moment.
Strange though it may seem, we humans continually invest time and effort in doing things that make ourselves feel BAD. I mean seriously… we do things every day to make ourselves feel bad.
You know when you receive the text message from a friend, partner or family member that upsets you. Why do we insist on reading and re-reading it 100 times? Why not just delete it, release the anger, hurt or pain and move on?
Why do you visit the Facebook page of a former friend or partner and get angry or jealous because (it appears) that they are having a whale of a time, now that they are no longer a part of your life?
We compare OUR lives to theirs and assume (that since they have it all together) that we must have been the ‘bad guys’ in the relationship.
Or we start future-tripping about how things may (or may not) turn out if we take a certain path.
Why do we do these things? Can you see from the examples just how unhelpful this is? Have you ever been guilty of this kind of behaviour?
Can’t you see that the only person hurting here is YOU?
The stories we tell ourselves about our circumstances, about others, and about life in general, can drastically change how we feel moment by moment. If the stories are positive, we tend to feel good. If the stories are negative, then it follows that we will start to feel bad.
AWARENESS is the first step to change and so all you have to do in the first instance, is to notice your thoughts. Once you become aware of them, you can start to assess whether they are helping or hurting you. And where appropriate, change them.
There are people who always look at things in a positive way. They have the ability to frame any situation in a way that leaves them feeling empowered and strong. They can take a seemingly negative situation and re-frame it to find the positive. For these people, the glass is always half full, no matter how empty it may look to everyone else.
As highly intelligent individuals, we ALL have the ability (and the opportunity) to re-frame any situation and to create a different perspective. The details of your present reality matter, and of course make a difference, but generally speaking, you’re not going to have a good day today if you continually tell yourself otherwise (i.e. thinking bad thoughts)
Because the stories we tell ourselves don’t just change how we FEEL – they have the power to change what we see, what we experience, and what we know to be true.
So, start today. Change your thoughts and you can change your life.
FREEDOM is only ever a thought away.
x Until next time, sending you love x
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