We are here for a good time, not a long time, right?
Simply put, life is far too short to spend it feeling miserable.
That’s not to say that each day of our lives is spent in perfect bliss, but for sure, the more we can tip the balance in favour of happiness, the better.
I am always stunned by the number of women I meet who tell me that they hate their jobs. And worse, that they have done for 10 years or more.
WHY, WHY, WHY would they do that to themselves?
Each one of those women is successful, smart, talented and capable – but still, she spends 8-10 hours every day in a job that she hates. Life is definitely NOT supposed to be that way.
We all go through periods when we start to assess our lifestyle. It can happen when things seem out of control, or when we reach a significant birthday. Life events such as the passing of a loved one, divorce or ‘empty nest’ syndrome can often be a catalyst for making us sit down and re-assess our values.
Even the start of a new year can give us the determination to change the things in our lives that do not make us happy and develop a programme of personal goals to get us back on the right track.
The first thing that is required to effect CHANGE in your life is the will to change it.
Set the intention to do it and you will. It really is as simple as that.
The second thing that you need is an Open Mind. Be receptive to new ideas. Listen to your intuition. We all have a little voice inside of us telling us the right thing to do. Some refer to it as co-incidence, others as gut-feeling or intuition, and others think of it as spiritual support. Trust it. You will find that the more open you are to the things around you, the more you will believe in yourself.
Try new things. Don’t be afraid to fail. Nothing ventured – nothing gained.
Make it a point to try and learn something new. Perhaps a new language? How about learning to dance? Painting? Yoga? Anything that will take you into a space of creativity. Expand your thinking and you will expand your experience of life.
Look after yourself, both emotionally and physically. We only have one body and we want it to last a long time. Keeping things inside emotionally is a major cause of stress and can lead to heart disorders and gastric problems. Let it out in a constructive manner. Taylor Swift’s ‘Shake it off’ turned up very loudly tends to work for me!
Each day, be grateful for the things you have. Make a point of listing five things every day that you are grateful for. It can be as simple as someone smiling at you when you are walking down the street. It might be that you are grateful for the roof over your head, that you have your family all around you. Be thankful and you will feel less bitter about the things that you think you don’t have and more appreciative of the nice things that do happen each day and that can often be taken for granted.
Be more generous – this doesn’t have to involve money. Say thank you whenever someone has done something nice. Be more present with your loved ones. It will dramatically change the relationships that you have with those around you. Try it and see.
Take control of your life. All you have to do is turn over a new leaf and you will discover a new life.
Make it happen.
If you have the determination, the way forward will be simple.
Permission is granted.
xxx Sending you so much love xxx